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Tuesday, September 10, 2013




Today I am writing to all of you with a very heavy heart. Paula’s daughter Adrienne and husband John have asked me to post this message as her friend and her colleague. This special place on the “net” where all of you came to know her was one of her greatest joys. She loved her work and was a dedicated Marriage and Family therapist for over 25 years. 

To our great sadness, Paula lost her struggle with an aggressive cancer on Sunday, August 4th  2013.  However her lovely spirit lives online in “A Therapist’s Thoughts”. Paula was dedicated to  sharing her years of experience as a therapist and to providing people with this forum for supporting each other.  I quote from Paula’s own comment about her hope for this Blog.

“Primarily though, the intention of this blog is to provide a place for self-reflection and, also, to augment the process for anyone who is currently in therapy.”

She gave of her time freely here. She shared with us, she cared about us, and we felt it through her words. Her wisdom was ever-present. She frequently expressed her great joy and excitement over new visitors, commentary, and peaks in blog activity. Her inspiration for new posts was never-ending.

Paula cannot be replaced. Her soul has traveled on to other adventures and we are left with an empty space but with so much gratitude for having known her in this way. From my own perspective, Paula was a guiding light in my personal growth as a therapist and she was a loyal friend. There is no doubt in my mind that Paula Young was a “special” human being. Reading over the Blog postings makes me feel close to her again.

Paula’s final struggle was heroic and she chose to keep many details of her illness from others, I believe, to protect them. So don’t wonder too long why you may not have known how seriously ill she was. Paula would want us all to continue our lives in the best way we know how and to remember her as a wise and delightful personality. Please continue to post your thoughts and messages to each other as the family plans to leave the Blog active for awhile.

Carol Law 

16 comments:

  1. I am so sad to hear this.... I've valued Paula's words on her blog since I found it ages ago. She will be very much missed. She touched the lives of many in her journey on Earth....

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  2. I'm very sorry to hear this - her words were of great comfort to me on many occasions. My heart goes out to her family, friends, and clients.

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  3. I love you Paula! Thank you for touching our lives!

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  4. She helped me greatly at a time when I thought my soul would never heal... thank you, Paula!

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  5. This really saddens me to hear thsi. I had just started reading Paula's content after I, myself, started therapy and was curious about what a therapist thinks since mine doesn't really speak mucha bout herself. Thank you, Paula, for your insight and i know your legacy will be your clients, family and friends you influenced and this wondeful blog. Henry

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  6. I called yesterday to wish her a happy birthday and got a sad voicemail recording. I had no idea she was sick. She will be greatly missed.

    -Jackie

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  7. I only discovered this blog yesterday, but did so through an on-line search that took me directly to one of Paula’s posts. I was touched and had read several posts before coming to the home page and discovering the sad news. In just this short time I can see how Paula would have touched so many people. I have gone back to the first post and am reading every one of them. With the thoughtfulness and care she put into this blog, I’m sure that she will continue to help others for some time to come.

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  8. Paula was a wonderful woman. I am still in shock and saddened by her passing. She was my therapist, my yoga partner, and my friend for close to a decade. We became friends and I recently had a "Woman's Party" with the intent to invite her. Too late. Never forgotten. A beautiful, insightful, caring, interested and interesting woman who will be missed. RIP Paula.

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  9. I'm shocked by the news. I have been coming to this blog site almost a year now. I didn't know she was sick. So saddened. I didn't know her personally, but I will miss her wisdom and knowledge on this blog. My heart truly goes out to her family, friends, and clients.

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  10. I feel blessed to have shared some of the light that Paula brought to the world. My deep sympathy for her family and friends at this sad news.

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  11. Paula was one of the most wonderful, caring persons I've known in my life. She counseled me through serious family issues in the last six years and her support made the world of difference. I will hold her close to my heart forever. She is missed dearly, yet her advice and wisdom will live on. RIP my beautiful Paula

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  12. Paula was a wonderful loving and caring person. We went to Jr High and High School together and have remained friends over the years. Paula helped me a lot with some issues. She touched the lives of so many people. Paula you will never be forgotten. Until we meet again, RIP my beautiful friend. I miss you, I love you,
    Sue

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  15. I have been afraid to view this blog, for my heart already told me what I would find. I would like to share what Paula means to me. I came to know her a few years ago, and while I was unsure of the merit of this pursuit at the time, in the end the help, friendship, caring, and professionalism of Paula has changed my life forever. I always knew she was listening, I always knew she cared, and yet she had the lightest touch with advise that touched my soul. Sure, there were many exercises, many, "try this, maybe it will work for you, maybe it won't." There were only three times that I was shown, "this is who you are," and these three items have changed my life, they were whoppers. Huge. My interaction with the world has been altered by Paula in a way that only a true, caring friend can do. I have a piece of her spirit with me for the rest of my time here, the rest of her will be sorely missed, indeed.

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